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10 Tips for Financial Wellness

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Financial wellness isn’t just about having enough money in the bank — it’s a state of confidence, knowing your financial situation can support your current lifestyle and future goals. Whether you’re paying off debt (I see you looming student loan), saving for a big purchase, or planning for retirement, establishing a sound financial strategy is key to reducing stress and building a solid foundation.

Here’s how you can create a manageable financial plan and prioritize your financial wellness:

1. Understand your financial picture

The first step in achieving financial wellness is understanding where you stand. Assess your income, expenses, debts, and savings. Tools like budgeting apps or spreadsheets can make this process easier. Be honest about your spending habits and track your expenditures for a month to see where your money is going. Once you have a clear picture, you’ll be better equipped to create a plan tailored to your needs.

Pro Tip: Categorize your spending into essentials (rent, utilities, groceries) and non-essentials (dining out, subscriptions). This makes it easier to identify areas for adjustment.

2. Create a REAListic budget

Budgeting isn’t about restricting your life — it’s about empowering yourself to make intentional financial decisions. Use the 50/30/20 rule as, what I call, a REAListic — Reality Educated Aligned Look, guideline:

  • 50% for needs (housing, food, transportation).
  • 30% for wants (entertainment, hobbies).
  • 20% for savings and debt repayment.

Sticking to a budget helps you manage your cash flow effectively and ensures you’re saving for future needs while enjoying life in the present.

3. Build an emergency fund…and don’t touch it!

Life is full of surprises, and an emergency fund is your financial safety net. Aim to save three to six months’ worth of living expenses. Start small — save what you can and build up over time. I love using the 52-Week Saving Method for saving incrementally. If possible, keep this money in a high-yield savings account where it’s easily accessible but still earns interest and try not to touch it unless a true emergency arises.

Pro Tip: Automate your savings. Set up a direct transfer from your paycheck to your emergency fund so you don’t even have to think about it.

4. Pay down debt strategically

Debt can be one of the biggest obstacles to financial wellness, but with a strategic approach, you can take control. Focus on paying off high-interest debt first (like credit cards) while making minimum payments on other loans. The snowball method — starting with smaller debts and working your way up — can also be effective if you need quick wins to stay motivated.

Pro Tip: Call your lenders to negotiate better interest rates or consider consolidating debt for more manageable payments. This saved my credit as an early 20s young adult.

5. Invest in YOUR future

Saving is important, but investing allows your money to grow over time. If your employer offers a retirement plan like a 401(k), contribute enough to get any matching contributions — they’re essentially free money. For long-term growth, consider other investment vehicles like IRAs, mutual funds, or index funds.

Pro Tip: Even if you can only invest a small amount, start early. Compounding interest works best with time.

6. Protect yourself with insurance

Financial wellness isn’t just about earning and saving — it’s also about protecting what you’ve built. Ensure you have adequate health, auto, and home insurance. If you have dependents, consider life insurance to provide for them in your absence. Some places even offer to bundle these so it’s all in one, easy to access place.

7. Set clear financial goals

What are you working toward — a home, a dream vacation, early retirement? Setting SMART — Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals gives you direction and purpose. This can effectively enhance financial wellness by providing a clear framework for setting and tracking financial objectives. Break larger goals into smaller, manageable steps to stay motivated.

Pro Tip: Instead of vaguely aiming to “save more money,” a SMART goal might be “save $200 each month for the next six months to build an emergency fund,” making it easier to stay focused and motivated on the path to financial stability.

8. Educate yourself

Financial literacy is a powerful tool. Read books, listen to podcasts, or attend workshops on personal finance. Explore personal finance books, budgeting apps, and reputable online resources to gain foundational knowledge. Begin with basic concepts like budgeting and saving before diving into advanced topics like investing. You can even enroll in free workshops or online courses focused on budgeting, investing, and saving. The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to make informed decisions and avoid costly mistakes.

9. Practice financial self-care

Mental and emotional health are closely tied to financial wellness, as financial stress can significantly impact overall well-being. Regularly review your finances, celebrate progress, and adjust as needed. Stay updated on economic trends and financial news to understand the market better. Give yourself grace for any setbacks — what matters is your commitment to improvement.

10. Build a network of support

Financial wellness doesn’t have to be a solo journey. Seek out support from trusted friends, family members, or financial professionals. Engage in forums or social media groups where you can share experiences and learn from others. Talking about money openly (while respecting boundaries) can help you learn new strategies and reduce financial stress. A financial advisor can offer personalized guidance, and joining a financial wellness group or forum can provide community and accountability.

Pro Tip: Don’t hesitate to ask for advice or share your goals with people who can support your growth. A network of like-minded individuals can help keep you motivated and focused.

Why is financial wellness important?

For many reasons, but it’s essential for reducing stress and anxiety. When individuals manage their finances effectively, they experience reduced anxiety and increased feelings of security, which positively influences their mental health. It enables individuals to focus on other life aspects without the burden of financial insecurity.

It enhances quality of life by allowing for the pursuit of necessities and enjoyable experiences, while also promoting long-term security through saving for emergencies and retirement. Achieving financial wellness fosters empowerment and independence, improves relationships by reducing conflicts over money, and opens up opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Ultimately, it contributes significantly to overall physical and mental well-being, providing a foundation for a balanced and fulfilling life.

By taking small, intentional steps, you can achieve financial wellness and feel confident in your ability to navigate life’s financial challenges. Remember, planning for your financial future isn’t just an act of discipline — it’s an act of self-care that pays dividends for years to come.

Playful Paths to Wellness

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As we start out the year, we all know in the hustle and bustle of adult life, it’s easy to overlook the importance of carving out time for fun and wellness. Yet, integrating play and mindfulness into our routines is often forgotten.

Being an adult is often hard because it comes with a multitude of responsibilities, such as managing finances, maintaining relationships, and balancing work-life demands. Additionally, the pressure to make important decisions and navigate challenges can lead to stress and uncertainty, making the journey of adulthood feel overwhelming at times.

But, playfulness is essential for healthy, happy adults for several reasons:

  • Stress relief
  • Enhanced creativity
  • Improved relationships
  • Emotional resilience
  • Physical health benefits
  • Personal growth
  • Mindfulness and presence

Here are five ideas to inspire your next, playful adventure in self-care…

1. Embrace your inner artist

Creativity is a powerful outlet for relaxation and expression. Tapping into your creative side has profound benefits for mental wellness. Engaging in art-making, like painting or drawing, can help process emotions and reduce stress. Consider taking up painting, pottery, or even adult coloring books. Craft nights with friends can also be a delightful way to bond while creating something unique.

If you’re new to art, try a guided painting class or a “sip and paint” session with friends for a fun, low-pressure environment. Alternatively, adult coloring books offer a meditative way to relax while exploring colors and designs. The beauty of creativity lies in the process, not the outcome — so let go of judgment and immerse yourself in the act of making.

Just some doodles I did

2. Dance it out

Dancing isn’t just physical exercise; it’s also an emotional release. Whether you’re grooving in your living room or taking a class like swing, ballroom, or hip-hop, moving to music is a joyful way to stay active and release endorphins that boost your mood.

Dancing also has social benefits — connecting with others on a dance floor or through a group class can create bonds and a sense of belonging. For solo fun, create a playlist of your favorite upbeat songs and have a mini dance party. One of my favorite playlist to dance like a wild woman in my living room to is, Spotify’s Dance Party. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect; it’s all about movement and joy. Many playful activities, such as sports or dancing, promote physical fitness. Staying active through play can improve overall health and well-being.

3. Try a new hobby

Learning something new keeps the mind sharp, stimulates your brain and introduces you to activities you might unexpectedly love. Hobbies like knitting or crocheting can be meditative, while gardening connects you with nature and provides tangible rewards (flowers, vegetables, or herbs!). Joining a group dedicated to your new interest, like a local club or online community, can help sustain your enthusiasm and expand your social circle. Playful interactions can strengthen social bonds. Sharing fun experiences with friends, family, or colleagues fosters connection and enhances communication.

Sooth the curious spirit curious, remember to choose something you genuinely enjoy; hobbies should bring joy, not pressure. Consider knitting, 3D printing, zentangle, woodworking, or even learning a new language. Playfulness encourages exploration and experimentation, allowing adults to step out of their comfort zones (like my baking below!) and discover new interests or talents.

I tried my hand at many, many Japanese Cotton Cheesecakes. This was the best one.

4. Belly laugh out loud

The science of laughter shows that it reduces stress hormones and increases endorphins. Seek out laughter by watching your favorite stand-up specials, attending a comedy night, or even revisiting funny moments with friends and family. For those who enjoy gaming, explore hilarious party games like Jackbox Naughty Party Pack or Really Loud Librarians. If you’re feeling bold, try out improv classes — they’re a double dose of comedy and creativity.

Don’t underestimate the simple act of sharing funny memes or videos with a friend to brighten your day. Screen old cartoons or animated series known for their humor. Cartoons can evoke nostalgia and laughter or play a prank on a willing friend. Laughter truly is the best medicine.

5. Water therapy

Being near or in water can be incredibly soothing as water has a unique calming effect on the body and mind. Spend time near natural water bodies like lakes, rivers, or the ocean to feel grounded. Swimming offers a full-body workout that’s also gentle on joints, making it an excellent choice for physical wellness.

At home, create a spa-like atmosphere with a warm bath, essential oils, and soft music. Incorporate sensory elements, like candles or bath salts, to enhance the experience. If accessible, try float therapy — an immersive sensory deprivation session designed to relax your body and clear your mind. You can do these solo or some places offer a larger tank for two!

Engaging in playful activities can enhance mindfulness, helping individuals stay present and fully enjoy the moment, which is beneficial for mental health.

Nothing quiets out the world like a float tank

Ultimately, playfulness brings joy and fulfillment to life. It reminds adults to enjoy the simple pleasures and maintain a sense of wonder, contributing to a balanced and satisfying life. Play also helps adults cope with challenges. By adopting a playful mindset, individuals can approach difficulties with a lighter heart, making it easier to navigate tough situations.

Incorporating playfulness into daily routines can lead to a happier, healthier, and more engaged adult life. These activities not only promote wellness but also invite moments of joy and balance into your routine. Explore them at your own pace, and remember to enjoy the journey. 🌟

The Art of Decluttering

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Transforming your space, mind, + life

In a world where material possessions often accumulate faster than we realize, the act of decluttering has become a powerful practice for improving not just our homes but our minds and well-being. Decluttering is more than just tidying up; it’s about creating a space that reflects clarity, purpose, and peace. By letting go of unnecessary items, we invite a sense of calm and focus into our lives.

Let’s explore the benefits of decluttering, as well as some practical examples of how it can positively impact your daily life.

1. Mental clarity + reduced stress

One of the most profound benefits of decluttering is its effect on mental health. When we are surrounded by clutter, our brains are constantly processing the chaos around us. This creates a sense of overwhelm and can make it harder to focus or relax. Studies have shown that people who live in cluttered environments experience higher levels of stress and anxiety.

For instance, imagine walking into a living room with piles of papers, misplaced items, and cluttered surfaces. It can be difficult to fully unwind in that environment because the visual noise signals that there’s work to be done. Now imagine a living room with only essential, meaningful items—a space that feels intentional. Decluttering removes distractions and creates an environment where your mind can rest and recharge.

Overcome excuses: Start by decluttering spaces that have fewer emotional ties, like the bathroom, pantry, or laundry room. Once you see how these clean spaces affect your mood, you’ll be more motivated to tackle areas with sentimental items.

2. Boosted productivity + focus

Clutter not only causes stress but also impairs productivity. When your environment is disorganized, it becomes harder to find what you need, wasting time and energy. A clean, organized space allows you to focus on the task at hand without unnecessary distractions.

For example, think about your workspace. If your desk is covered in papers, random objects, and unused items, it’s harder to focus on work or even know where to start. By decluttering your desk, keeping only what you need and removing distractions, you create a more productive environment. The act of tidying up often brings clarity to your mind, helping you prioritize tasks and work more efficiently.

Overcome excuses: Break it down into smaller tasks. Start with just 10 minutes a day or focus on one small area, like a drawer or a shelf. Once you begin, momentum builds, making it easier to keep going.

3. Improved decision-making

When we hold on to too many items, we clutter our decision-making process. A cluttered closet, for example, can make it difficult to choose an outfit in the morning, leading to decision fatigue before the day even begins. The more options we have, the harder it can be to make a choice.

By decluttering and simplifying, we reduce the number of decisions we have to make, which frees up mental energy for more important things. In a minimalist wardrobe, every item has a purpose, and getting dressed becomes quicker and more satisfying.

Overcome excuses: Trust that letting go creates space for what you need. If you haven’t used an item in six months to a year, chances are you won’t miss it. Donate it and know that if you ever truly need something, you’ll find a way to replace it when necessary.

4. Enhanced well-being + happiness

Decluttering has a direct link to improved emotional well-being. Letting go of things that no longer serve a purpose can bring a sense of accomplishment and liberation. It helps us release attachments to the past and focus on the present.

Take, for example, sentimental clutter. Many people hold onto items they no longer use simply because of the emotional weight tied to them—old gifts, outdated clothing, or things kept out of guilt. While it’s important to treasure meaningful items, too many of them can weigh us down. Decluttering allows us to keep the things that genuinely bring joy and let go of the rest, lightening our emotional load.

Overcome excuses: Reframe your thinking: the purpose of a gift was to bring you joy when it was given, and it’s okay to let it go if it’s no longer useful. Similarly, consider that the money you spent has already served its purpose. By donating or recycling, you give those items a second life with someone who will appreciate them.

5. Financial benefits

Decluttering can also have a positive impact on your finances. By evaluating what you already own, you become more mindful of your future purchases. When you regularly declutter and organize your possessions, you’re less likely to buy things you don’t need.

For example, after decluttering your kitchen, you may realize you have multiple gadgets that serve the same purpose. Instead of buying another kitchen tool, you’ll recognize that simplifying your tools helps you use what you have more efficiently.

Overcome excuses: Implement a “one in, one out” rule: for every new item you bring into your home, something else must go. This keeps your space balanced and forces you to be more selective with new purchases.

Decluttering is more than just cleaning up—it’s a transformative process that benefits your mind, space, and overall quality of life. By removing unnecessary items, we create an environment of clarity and peace. Whether it’s your home, workspace, or closet, decluttering helps you focus on what truly matters, reduces stress, and enhances your well-being. So why not start today? Take small steps, and watch the ripple effect as decluttering opens up more space for calm, creativity, and joy in your life!

Water: Your Warm Weather BFF

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As temperatures rise, so does the importance of staying hydrated. Water, the essential elixir of life, plays a critical role in maintaining our health, especially during the sweltering summer months. Understanding why hydration is crucial and how to ensure you get enough water can help you stay healthy and energized.

Our bodies are composed of about 60% water, making it a vital component for numerous bodily functions. Water helps regulate body temperature, transports nutrients, and removes waste. When we’re properly hydrated, our bodies function efficiently, and we feel better overall.

The Risks of Dehydration

Dehydration occurs when your body loses more water than it takes in. In hot weather, the risk of dehydration increases as we sweat more to cool our bodies down. Symptoms of dehydration can range from mild, such as dry mouth and fatigue, to severe, such as dizziness, confusion, and rapid heartbeat. In extreme cases, dehydration can lead to heatstroke, a life-threatening condition that requires immediate medical attention.

Benefits of Staying Hydrated

Temperature Regulation: Water is crucial for maintaining body temperature. As we sweat, the evaporation of sweat from our skin helps cool us down. Without adequate hydration, our bodies can’t effectively manage heat.

Enhanced Physical Performance: Staying hydrated improves endurance, reduces fatigue, and lowers the risk of heat-related illnesses during physical activities. Whether you’re exercising or just going about your daily routine, adequate hydration keeps you performing at your best.

Mental Clarity and Mood: Dehydration can negatively affect cognitive functions and mood. Staying hydrated helps maintain mental sharpness and a positive outlook, essential for navigating the demands of daily life.

Healthy Skin: Water is essential for maintaining skin elasticity and overall health. Proper hydration helps keep your skin looking radiant and youthful, even in the hottest weather.

Tips for Staying Hydrated

  1. Carry a Water Bottle: Keep a reusable water bottle with you at all times. Sipping water throughout the day is an easy way to stay hydrated.
  2. Eat Water-Rich Foods: Fruits and vegetables like watermelon, cucumber, and oranges have high water content and can help boost your hydration levels.
  3. Set Reminders: Use your phone or a hydration app to remind you to drink water regularly, especially if you have a busy schedule.
  4. Infuse Your Water: If you find plain water boring, try infusing it with slices of lemon, lime, cucumber, or berries for a refreshing twist.
  5. Monitor Your Intake: Pay attention to your body’s signals. Thirst, dark urine, and dry skin can all be indicators that you need to drink more water.

Staying hydrated, particularly in hot weather, is essential for maintaining optimal health and well-being. Water is the foundation of our bodily functions, and ensuring you drink enough can prevent dehydration, improve physical and mental performance, and keep your skin healthy. So, grab your water bottle, take regular sips, and enjoy the benefits of staying hydrated all summer long.

Enjoy our FREE water tracking worksheet for your peace of mind!

Wrap Up Well-being for Winter

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Even if you live somewhere you are fortunate to enjoy sunny days during the winter, the season itself can bring on a lot of additional stress. Beginning with end-of-year schooling in December, going straight into busy holiday activities, traveling to see family (often to cold, rainy and snowy climates), followed by the start of a new year… acclimating yourself to new changes, time constraints, catching up on work and more, can be a LOT to handle! All of this, in addition to fewer daylight hours, can throw you into a winter funk. 

But winter can be an amazing season for your physical and mental health. …

Just use these seven simple but powerful ways to enjoy winter, feel great and thrive! 

  1. Make time for self-care during winter break. After a strenuous fall, winter is the time to recharge. While it’s tempting to stay busy when you’re home for the holidays, be sure to make time for yourself. If you want to spend Saturday on the couch watching movies, or curl up in bed for a long winter’s nap, do it! If your body is telling you to slow down, listen to it and allow yourself to catch up on some much needed rest and relaxation.
     
  2. Keep moving with some form of regular exercise. This is truly a game changer during the winter months. Going to the gym, joining a class virtually  or even just going for daily walks will make you feel so much better during the winter season. This is also a great time to start the new year by learning a new skill and meeting new people. Check your local area for nearby places offering classes and workshops. Guaranteed there is one that’s perfect for you!
     
  3. Stay hydrated. A lot of people think they can drink less water in the winter, but that’s not the case. In fact, dry indoor heat can quickly dehydrate you, leaving you feeling sluggish and drained. Keep your water bottle filled and nearby, and sip on it throughout the day. Staying hydrated in the winter will help you look and feel your best!
     
  4. Eat colorful winter fruits.  Eating seasonal produce is always the best option, and there are so many delicious fruits at their peak during the winter months. Here are a few to get you started:  

    Apples. Fall may be peak season for most apples, but properly stored, there are many varieties in stores that are crisp, juicy and fresh all winter long! Try a Fuji, Braeburn, Rome or Gold Rush apple and enjoy their delicious taste and health benefits.

    Pears. There’s nothing better than a Christmas pear! The sweetest and juiciest of all winter pears. Other yummy winter pear varieties are Bosc, D’Anjou and Comice.

    Pomegranate arils. If you’ve never tried a pomegranate aril you are missing out! These are the little red seed pods inside the pomegranate. Most stores (including Trader Joe’s) sell small containers of fresh arils in the winter. If you want a tasty treat that’s power packed with nutrients, this is THE winter fruit you need to try! 

    Clementines, mandarins, and kiwis, oh my! Eat them fresh or toss them in a fruit salad for a delightful combination of flavors
     
  5. Do something that inspires and nourishes your soul daily or weekly.  What inspires you? Music, art, a good book, mediation, cooking?  This next year, commit to doing one thing every day or each week that brings you personal fulfillment. Not sure what that is? Ask yourself this question “If I had more time, I would….” With a busy schedule of, work, family, children, and a social life, it’s often easy to go weeks or months without doing the things that are important to us personally. Don’t put these things off until the next break or summer, weave them into your schedule. Even if it’s just 30 minutes a week.
     
  6. Write down your life vision for 2023. This is not a list of goals (although you can include goals). A life vision is the bigger picture. What’s important to you this year? How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? In what areas do you want to grow as a person? A life vision can really encompass anything you want it to. It’s the process of writing this down that is transformative, and will help you to actualize your vision and enjoy a happier, more fulfilled year.
     
  7. Start a gratitude journal for 2024. Did you know that writing daily in a gratitude journal can be good for your health? Studies have shown that keeping a daily gratitude journal can lower stress levels, help you sleep better, and give you a more clear perspective on what is important to you and what you truly appreciate every day. In short, a gratitude journal can benefit your body, mind and soul.

And no worries if you are a person who doesn’t like to journal. Writing three short (one sentence) things in your gratitude journal is all it takes. And when you go back and read your gratitude journal, it truly does make you realize how many things there are to be grateful for – winter, spring, summer and fall! MySoulrenity shared a printable version of this if you’re signed up for our newsletter, if not, what are you waiting for!

Suicide Prevention Awareness

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The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.

We can all help prevent suicide. Every year, NAMI and other mental health organizations and individuals across the U.S. and around the world raise awareness of suicide prevention during September, National Suicide Prevention Month.

Suicides in the U.S. reached all-time high in 2022, CDC data shows. About 49,449 people took their own lives last year, an estimated 3% increase compared to 2021 and is on rise this year. As more data comes in this year, on average, that means at the end of calendar year 2023 there will be one suicide death in the US every 10.9 minutes.

Suicides in adults ages 25 to 44 grew about 1%. The new data indicates that suicide became the second leading cause of death in that age group in 2022, up from No. 4 in 2021. Based on these statistics, someone out there may be contemplating suicide, possibly at this very moment. When an individual considers suicide, it may not be that they want to end their life, but instead may want to end the pain they’re currently in. Not knowing how to end this pain can feel like an insurmountable roadblock. When encountering a barrier like this, we may think we need to leap over it in a single stride, or find THE solution to our problems. No doubt that can seem impossible. And if that’s what living looks like, impossible, then one may start to think that dying is their only other option.

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.”

― Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Stress is certainly a normal part of our lives, and can be an important catalyst of growth and performance. At times however, our stressors can seem to overwhelm our ability to manage them. If we can be more aware of the common signs of poor stress management, then conquering our stressors may become a little bit more manageable. When stress feels overwhelming, it can impact us physically, mentally, and socially. Physically, we may notice disruption to our sleep patterns or experience appetite changes, which can lead to lower energy and more frequent sickness. We may experience emotional or psychological distress, leading to anger, low motivation, anxiety, or even hopelessness. Furthermore, when chronically distressed we may socially withdraw, isolate, or disengage in activities we once enjoyed. When these responses add on to the original stressors, it can begin to feel unmanageable.

How do we address this?

One way is to adopt MySoulrenity’s 4 C’s of Mental Wellness.

The first C of mental wellness is Connection. Establishing meaningful connections with others is a valuable tool in the prevention of suicide. We must be proactive in building and maintaining relationships with others. This doesn’t always come easily, but with some help, strong relationships can be a powerful buffer against stress.

Second, engaging in Craft is essential to promote mental wellness. This involves focusing on your strengths and positive attributes. For instance, when feeling down it may be helpful to reflect on past times of resilience. Hard times can sometimes feel never-ending. Thinking back on experiences in which you have overcome, for instance completing basic training, passing a challenging academic course, or finishing a race or competition, can enhance your motivation to endure the current moment.

Additionally, practicing Centering Yourself can be helpful. Being mindful of our emotions helps us differentiate between what is and what is not in our control. Focusing on what is currently in your control, while also practicing gratitude or being thankful for the good that is present, may help to further promote resilience.

The 4th C of Mental Wellness is seeking a Change of Scenery, specifically as it pertains to getting your body moving. Movement involves both physical activity, like daily exercise, and taking action to manage our stress. Mental wellness, like physical wellness, requires work and intentional exercise of healthy behaviors. We all get to choose how we exercise our mental wellness, whether it be talking to others, engaging in creative activities, or practicing meditation. Whatever we do, it should be regular and intentional.

If you find that you or someone you know is struggling, please seek or offer support. Wellbeing is a team sport, and none of us are expected to perform solo. If you’re or someone you know is in emotional distress or suicidal crisis know that help is available – dial 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, where counselors are available 24 hours (English, Spanish). Not in the USA? Look at Google’s Crisis Information country list that comes from high-quality websites, partnerships, medical professionals, and search results.

If you have lost someone to suicide or a mental health crisis check out support groups, including an organization called Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors that operates a 24/7 online forum.

Suicide Prevention Awareness Month provides a dedicated time for people, organizations, and communities to join their voices and share that there is hope, help is available, and healing is possible. MySoulrenity always has our door or inbox open for you to reach out to us, please don’t hesitate to look for support.

Power In the Past for the Future

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Not everyone values history or the past in the same way. In the quotation books on my book shelves, for every quote that echoes “history is bunk” (from Henry Ford), I can find a “those who cannot learn from history are bound to repeat it” (from George Santayana).

I don’t know if you liked U.S. or World History in school, or whether you tend to agree with Henry or George, but for me, I’m much more in the Santayana camp. And it is my goal here to tell you why – by giving you specific ways you can use your past experience and the past experience of others to become more effective, more productive, and even wiser.

In short, the past is a treasure chest filled with learning opportunities for our present and future, but only if we look inside. This article will give you seven ways to open up that dirty, unassuming, beat-up old chest to find and use the treasure that is inside.

Reflect on it

Oliver Wendell Homes, Jr. wrote “When I want to understand what is happening today to try to decide what will happen tomorrow, I look back.” In order to gain value and insight from the past, reflection is a necessary first step. When we are unwilling to, afraid to, or too “busy” to look back, none of the value available to us can be found. The past begins to open its insight to us when we actually stop and look back at what has already occurred.

This could be how a meeting went earlier in the day, or how we reacted to an event that happened 20 years ago. Reflection knows no time period and has no statute of limitations. Your entire past, your actions, results and feelings are all available if we choose to tap into them. The rest of this article will give you additional tools and approaches to do that most effectively.

Study it

Studying the past starts to feel like a history course, and it may be. Your goal however isn’t to pass a test or hold a bunch of dates in your head. Rather your goal, whether studying a famous leader, the arc of a nation, or the development of your industry, is to place yourself in the narrative to understand what was happening and what you can learn from it. Studying in this way makes both the specifics and the context valuable. You are also building a mental file of tools and approaches that will help you make new, more informed and yes, wiser decisions in the future.

Replay it

Replaying a situation is different than just reflecting on it. Try walking back through the situation like you are reliving the situation, but with the knowledge and perspective that you now have after the fact. This replay allows for the new perspective and knowledge to help you think how you might do something different or better the next time a similar situation happens. This is like pre-creating positive future Deja vu moments!

Generalize it

The situation in your past might never occur in exactly the same way again. That doesn’t change the value of looking back. By reflecting on the past, we can find common threads, general components of situations that we can use to create lessons and ideas for the future. This is a great strategy when looking at historical events, the lives of other people or case studies from companies or situations. Rather than looking for what doesn’t apply, the way to best learn from these situations is to generalize out the lessons that you can apply again and again.

Release yourself from it

There are some things in your past that you regret, feel guilty about, or wish you would have done differently. The fact is, however badly you feel, however desperately wish you could change it, it’s in the past. The page has turned. This may mean to forgive others or yourself. Let go of pain or guilt and keep (or find) the learning.

Reframe it

Reframing the past is something we can do with the perspective that comes from replaying it and releasing ourselves from it. While we can’t change our past, we can reframe the situation to serve us better in the future. Was getting fired a failure or a great learning experience? If could be both, or either one. The fact is – you were fired. How you frame and use that experience makes all the difference. This isn’t about denial or lying to ourselves, but a conscious approach to use our past to help us move closer to the future that we desire.

Use it

All of the reflection, study, replay, generalization and more is of only intellectual (or perhaps emotional) value until you do something with the lessons. In the end, the way to “productively learn” from the past is to put those lessons into practice now and in the future.

You have a past – all of the events, feelings, emotions and results are sitting in that treasure chest. It is my hope that this article helps you decide to open it, and explore with vigor and anticipation. The treasure is there, but you must look for it.

Bring Abundance to Your Bank

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Financial abundance is something that everyone wants, right? Regardless of your goals or what you know or don’t know about money, thinking about it positively can help immensely.

What is financial abundance?

The term “financial abundance” is more of a mindset than a number. It is a state of feeling thankful for what you have and being comfortable with the amount of money you make. It is also when you feel confident about finances. As you can tell, specifics with this will vary from person to person; it’s a very individual matter.

Now you know what it means, but let’s find out more about the mindset of financial abundance.

This state of mind is characterized by feeling like there are plenty of possibilities and money is available for you. You don’t feel that money is limited but that there is always more than enough.

Want to cultivate that mindset?

Financial abundance is a nice thought, but how do you achieve it? How do you develop this mindset and get your money to cooperate with it? Here are some tips.

1. Stay healthy.

To achieve anything or be successful in any part of your life, you need to be healthy. This includes mental, physical, and emotional health. Eat well, exercise, meditate and do what helps you feel your best. Then you’ll be ready to go after your dreams.

2. Stop comparing.

Don’t let comparison hold you back! If you spend time thinking about what others have, it takes away from what you have time to do for your own life. Instead of letting envy tear you down, work towards your own goals with money.

3. Mind your belongings.

Sometimes people may get the impression that those that have money are wasteful. In reality, if they worked hard for their money, they probably take good care of their own things because they want to be wise with what they have. To develop a financial abundance lifestyle, take care of the things you own. Try to make them last, don’t be wasteful, and remember to appreciate what you have.

4. Don’t stop learning.

If we don’t learn, we just stay the same and can’t expect to progress to new levels of wealth. Be willing to learn new things, such as investment terms, marketable skills, or anything that will help you be more successful. Seek out skills that can aid you with making more money or will make you a more well-rounded person. To begin, start by reading and pursuing information about new subjects. Primarily focus on financial skills and knowledge that will help you with financial abundance. 

5. Prioritize a core group of friends over a lot casual acquaintances.

With friendships, it’s about quality, not quantity. And it’s better to have just a few trustworthy friends than many people you know casually but can’t really trust or talk to. Investing in close friendships will help you to grow as a person and have people to talk to about your financial journey. You can also help them and be there to listen in their times of need.

6. Live a life of joy.

A financial abundance mindset is all about enjoying life because you aren’t worried about money. It works for you and improves your life. But don’t wait until you reach a certain number in your bank account to enjoy your life. Instead, enjoy your life and the things you have now, even as you work towards more financial success in the future.

7. Forgive but don’t forget.

Holding onto resentment or anger will only cause you to feel worse, and it can distract you from your goals. Choose to forgive others and see the difference it makes in your own life. When you no longer feel constant frustration or hurt from the past, you can explore the future and make positive choices.

8. Stay positive when possible.

Speaking of which, a positive attitude will get you a long way in life. Think about money and your goals in a positive way, choosing to see the best and the possibilities instead of the limitations. This will open up your eyes to everything around you and all the chances you have to seek financial abundance. 

Ready to unlock financial abundance?

Wondering how to get to this point of positivity with money? Here are 8 statements that you can make daily to help you succeed with financial abundance. 

🌟“Wealth is a part of my life.”🌟
Choose to believe that wealth is something that is naturally a part of your life. Think about wealth as a friend that helps you, and you may notice that you feel instantly better. Believe that you have money now and will have more in the future. And then your decisions will naturally gravitate towards wealth and abundance. 

🌟“I deserve to be financially rewarded.”🌟
Believe in your abilities and that you are worthy of being paid large sums of money for your work. You are good at your job, have a lot of excellent skills, and deserve to make more income. This will help you find more ways to do so, just by believing in yourself. So go ahead – ask for that pay raise, go after that promotion, open the business – whatever will help you earn more.

🌟“Money will come into my life in many ways.“🌟
Believe that you’ll make money in the usual ways, like your paycheck, and unexpected ways you haven’t thought of. The idea is to believe that money is out there and that you’ll have what you need when you need it. Begin to look for the unexpected and notice ways to make more cash.

🌟“I do not fear for my financial future.”🌟
You don’t need to worry or feel insecure about your finances as you work towards a financial abundance mindset. Believe that your future with money is something to look forward to, and shouldn’t be feared, because you can create wealth.

🌟“Creativity and dedication will secure my success.”🌟
Success doesn’t come with no effort, but you can make a great future for yourself if you keep trying. Know and believe that every day, and choose to be creative and work hard. Then you’ll get to where you want to be in life.

🌟“Abundance is all around me.”🌟
Choose to see the positivity and good things in every aspect of your life. Your life is filled with blessings and good things if you decide to see them. So repeat to yourself that your life is full of abundance until you believe it.

🌟“Negative emotions have no place in my financial goals.”🌟
Emotion has no power by itself. It can be controlled, even if the feeling is a negative one about money.

🌟“Money makes the world a better place.”🌟
Instead of believing that money is evil or ignoring it .Money is not bad. You decide how it is used, so use the money to make the world a better place. Believe that more money is good for you and others, and allow that to lead you. Money is a tool. Give to charities, buy gifts for family and friends, and use it for positive things.

Financial abundance is absolutely possible in your life. You are capable, and you make great money decisions. Use these 8 affirmations to make a real difference in how you think and act with finance. Monetary abundance is entirely possible for your life if you believe and work hard. Know that your attitude toward money will greatly affect how it is used in your life, so choose positivity and watch the wealth build.

Cope with Back-to-School Anxiety

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Back to school in a pandemic – again.

The start of the school year is usually challenging for many kids. But, going back to school in a pandemic adds a lot of stress and worry to what kids may already be feeling.

We are hearing from many child and youth mental health workers that families are feeling a lot of uncertainty around the return to school. A lot of kids are asking questions such as: Will schools stay open this year? Why should I go in-person if they are just going to shut down anyways?

All families faced a lot of upheaval in the last couple of years, so it makes sense that many are feeling this way now. With this in mind, we checked in with our child and youth mental health experts for tips and ideas to help make your child’s transition back to school a little easier. Here’s our transition tips for back to school…

1. Create a routine

We talk a lot about routines because it’s so important! Getting into a routine is also a common challenge as kids head back to school. This year, it may be even more difficult because kids have not had in-person learning for so many months. We’ve heard from families that older kids may have picked up some unusual sleep routines – staying up all night on their devices and sleeping in late. Working with them to agree on new rules to shut down their devices and get back to a regular sleep schedule could help get them on the right track.

2. Communicate openly with young ones

One of the most powerful ways you can support your child through the process of returning to school is by trying to understand how they are feeling about it. Find the right time to ask them questions to get a sense of what’s on their mind. Listening to what they are experiencing – and not criticizing – gives them an open space to talk about what’s going on or ask questions they have about the school year. For many kids, the more chances they have to be heard, the more likely they will feel comfortable to open up and talk. You could let them know whatever they are feeling is ok and assure them that you’re going to get through this together. Also, ask your child how you can work together to make this a positive school year. Ask older kids to consider what the benefits are of returning to school to get them focusing on the positives.

It can be helpful to have a script in mind to get the conversation going. Here’s an example that might help with school: “I understand you might feel nervous/sad/uncomfortable about going back to school because… it’s been so long and you’ve gotten comfortable with online school/ you’ll miss doing school work from home with mom/dad’s company/ COVID is still a risk and that’s scary…” Then follow through with emotional support or some problem solving: “We’ll get through this together” or “How can I help you?”

3. Accept reality and ‘sit in the yuck‘

There are a lot of concerns around academic preparedness and uncertainty of the school year – on top of ongoing concerns about the pandemic. None of us can say with certainty what the next few months will bring and sometimes the unknown can feel yucky. It’s ok to have conversations with your kids and ‘sit in the yuck’ with them – that means, you are hearing their concerns and validating their feelings without necessarily being able to solve the problem. We don’t need to have all the answers, all the time. For a lot of kids, resilience comes from having just one person in their corner who sees them and understands what they are going through. From there, you can start problem solving together by focusing on what is in your control to change.

Hear from Stephanie Rhys, Child and Family Clinician, EveryMind for more on what does it mean to sit in the yuck?

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4. Prepare the night before

There are quite a few things you can do the night before to help the morning rush run a little more smoothly. Can you have backpacks packed, waiting by the door? Can you encourage your child or teen to pick out their clothes and have them ready? Can you prepare lunches the night before? These are common tips to help get ready for school, but these routine things may be more important than ever this year when there is already so much more to be thinking of.

5. Reach out to the school

If your child is managing mental health issues, it is helpful to have the lines of communication open with the school. You don’t need to wait for an issue to escalate with your child before you reach out to them. Staying connected with the school gives you an opportunity to work together as a team and ensure kids feel heard and assured that you can get through this.

6. Extra support for preschoolers

For little ones who are going to school for the first time, it’s a really big change! And many of these kids may be experiencing pandemic protocols (like mask-wearing depending on your regions) for the first time. To help your child adjust, try visiting the school before the year starts or gets heavily underway if possible. You can work on a goodbye routine that is practiced at bedtime and then used at school drop off time – it will help them understand that just as you are there when they wake, you will be there when school is done. Try to make sure you are always on time to pick your little one up. Also, consider letting them bring a transitional object – something that will bring them comfort and help them feel connected to home while they are in class.

7. Allow time for adjustment

Different kids will be feeling different things – excitement, nervousness, uncertainty – about the return to school. It’s important to give them time to transition back – it’s a lot of change! But pay attention to signs that may be a warning of something more serious going on for them. For example, if your child is so stressed that they are not sleeping or eating well, getting persistent headaches or stomach aches, or perhaps they are wanting to stay in bed all day, it can be a sign that they need help. 

And please remember:

It’s OK to not feel OK. You are not alone; parents and teachers alike are scared for the upcoming return to school. We must all work together as a community to make this transition as safe and easy as possible for everyone involved. Self-care is not selfish – it is important to take some time for your own self-care.

If you feel that you or your child are experiencing significant ongoing distress, there are many ways to access specialized care. From the MySoulrenity Wellness Team, to your local support groups and one-on-one support sessions, to external resources, there is something for everyone.

Celebrate Pride As An Ally

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Pride month is finally here! As an LGBTQ+ supportive wedding vendor, I love being an ally. While any time is the right time to support the community, Pride month is a special opportunity for allies in the industry to examine how they show that support for LGBTQ+ couples they work with. There are endless ways to show your pride as an ally, but these six are a great place to start.

Center LGBTQ+ Voices

True allies make their support about the LGBTQ+ community, rather than about themselves.

There is no one way to center LGBTQ+ voices, but here are a few ideas:

  1. Ask LGBTQ+ couples you’ve worked with to share their love stories on your website or social media.
  2. For any LGBTQ+ styled shoots you take part in, make sure the models are actually part of the LGBTQ+ community (and ideally a real couple).
  3. Directly ask LGBTQ+ couples what they most need from vendors to feel affirmed and then work on living up to that.
  4. Use photos of real LGBTQ+ couples on your website.
  5. If you’re not LGBTQ+, don’t speak on our behalf and our experiences. Elevate LGBTQ+ voices whenever possible.

Publicly Declare Yourself an Ally

Public declarations of allyship are important in showing LGBTQ+ couples that you are respectful and affirming and that they will feel safe working with you.

Couples are on the lookout for signals from potential vendors, from social media posts to statements of inclusivity on your website to a badge showing you are Equally Wed Pro certified,

Don’t be afraid to show off any Pride month celebrations you take part in as well. Just make sure the celebrating is genuine and not staged and that it centers LGBTQ+ voices (see above).

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Be an Ally All Year Long

Don’t just be an ally when it’s trendy. The best allies to the LGBTQ+ community are those who demonstrate their support 365 days a year. This could mean donating to LGBTQ+ nonprofits year-round or continuing to celebrate LGBTQ+ couples on your website and social media.

It also means always being respectful, affirming and safe for any LGBTQ+ couple who walks through your doors.

Don’t Support Politicians, Businesses and Policies that are Anti-LGBTQ+

This one seems obvious, but it can require more work than you think.

Oftentimes, Pride month is a time when companies slap rainbows on their products and declare themselves allies. Some companies that do this, however, may not actually walk the walk. Before supporting a company (and touting their rainbow products), check if they have nondiscrimination policies that support their LGBTQ+ employees. Do they provide healthcare on an equal level? What about parental leave?

It is as important to do this research for politicians you support as well. If you’re going to put a rainbow on your website, make sure you’re putting your money where your mouth is.

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Use Correct Terminology

Don’t make assumptions about how any new people you meet identify. Make it a habit to ask anyone new what pronouns they use, and if they are potential clients, ask them what they would like to be called in regards to their wedding (bride, groom, marrier, partner, etc..).

Take the time to learn the meaning of important terms for the LGBTQ+ community as well. That way, you have a base understanding of the many ways people identify and express themselves (see below on how to educate yourself).

Educate Yourself

There are so many great educational offerings that will help you learn to be the best possible ally. If you haven’t already, start with our very own Equally Wed Pro courses, and especially our LGBTQ+ certification course. 

Completing this course will not only help you gain important knowledge, but it will also earn you a badge for your website declaring you as LGBTQ+ inclusive—another great way to make yourself visible as an ally!

Authored by Molly S.

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