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5 Female Friendships Facts

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Female friendships, they’re amazing but sometimes seem such a difficult feat? Why do some women find getting along with other women so amazingly challenging and putting others down so satisfying?

There was a time when even I preferred the company of guys, rather than even trying to befriend girls. Guys just seemed easier to get along with. They didn’t judge, they could handle my rather rough sense of humor, and they weren’t jealous.

Yes, I said the J word. The word that is often used as an explanation to why so many women find female friendships so very hard. But nothing is ever that simple. We’re not born to be jealous of each other. As so many other traits, jealousy is a learned behavior.

All friendships are valuable. But when you’re lucky enough to be a female who clicks with another female on a level where no subject is a taboo, who you can trust always, and who you love beyond anything, congratulations. You’ve got something which value cannot be measured in any currency because it goes beyond such things.

Relax With Some Feminine Energy

Let’s start with a rather obvious one: we women are graced with better emotional abilities than the opposite sex. We are better able to recognize different emotions. We are also better able to express these emotions and live with them.

The extremely important factor here is our ability to express: our ability to talk about our feelings. You all know that feeling, right? The feeling when you’re upset and you just need to talk to someone about it!

That’s when you call your girlfriend(s), gather together with them, perhaps equipped with a bottle of wine, and you let it all out. You tell them your deepest fears, your biggest worries and your dearest dreams. And they listen and support you.

There’s nothing that reduces stress levels like being able to talk, and being listened to.

Boost Up Your Buds

Women tend to be very loyal. Not all of them, obviously, but a great majority of us. We put a lot of trust in people we love and value most. And we expect the same loyalty to be reciprocated. Loyal relationships make us feel stable, which also helps with our self-esteem.

It’s easier to pay a compliment to another woman when you feel it takes nothing away from you, and when you can count on their honesty and ability to pay one back when it’s needed. A girlfriend’s positive comment on our outlook or actions boosts our confidence more than a man’s compliment. It’s funny, but true.

Trust Deeply and Deeper

Do you trust your partner? Of course you do, otherwise you wouldn’t be with them, right? But for a lot of us trust between our partner versus trust between us and our closest girlfriends is not comparable.

Your boyfriend will tell you you look beautiful in that dress because they know that’s what you wanna hear (yes, I know, not all boyfriends!). Whereas you can be damned sure that your girlfriends will tell you honestly if a dress doesn’t do you any favors.

On a more serious note, if that boyfriend then fails you, you can always rely on the fact that you’re not alone. Your friends are there for you, they will hold you up and they will support you. No matter what size the mountain you have to climb, with a safety net like your girlfriends you’ll be just fine!

Fierce Bonds

On a similar subject, when you’ve got yourself a little ‘gals’ army’ there is no situation, no fight, no catastrophe big enough that couldn’t be handled. You’ve got the ultimate support system to which you can turn about any matter.

Whether it’s positive or negative, it don’t matter. You girlfriends will want to hear about it and celebrate/lament it with you. When you’ve really fucked up and you’re embarrassed beyond any measure, you can count on them to not judge you or laugh at you. There is no element of fear in female friendships.

There’s no denying that if women ruled the world, it would be a lot kinder, a lot calmer, and a lot nicer a place to live in. Women see value in other things than power and money. Those are unsustainable values, that have extremely destructive consequences when misused. We see it everywhere in the world today:

Far-right movements rising around the world, most useless wars raging all over the place, incels blaming and hating women for their own inability to form meaningful relationships, and mental illnesses being amped up by everything around us telling us we’re never good enough. All for the sake of money and power.

At the end of the day all of us humans are exactly the same. We all look for happiness, we all need food to stay alive, and we all need a community where we feel safe and accepted.

It all comes down to empathy. Women are intuitive, which means we are better able to read emotions. And because we are also able to see things from others’ point of view, we are great communicators and listeners. This creates trust, feeling of safety and community. And that’s the strongest base for any relationship, ideology, or a state. 

The Art of Apologizing

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Throughout my life I’ve been entangled in the most wondrous, stressful, emotional, uplifting, life-changing, evolving relationships both romantically and pla. I have learned much more than I ever dreamed simply by allowing myself to engage fully with those in my life. All of the lessons didn’t come wrapped neatly though. Some of them I learned the hard way and with the hard way comes mistakes, and with mistakes come apologies.

A simple apology can go a long way if it’s done effectively and sincerely. If you wait too long it could fall on deaf ears. If you approach it too soon it might not seem genuine. If you don’t choose your words carefully you can actually damage a relationship beyond repair.

Apologize to yourself first

In my early adult years I shifted a lot of blame to others for my situation and that wasn’t fair to me or them. It took a lot of time and inner work before I could understand how to express myself for forgiveness but now I find relief within apologizing. My first step when I realize an apology is necessary is to apologize to myself. I made the mistake. I reacted or acted in a way that doesn’t represent who I am. I am seeking self-forgiveness.

Apologies and forgiveness are about more than words and actions. First, you must truly accept what has taken place and show compassion to that face in the mirror, you. It’s important but quite difficult to accept what you have done. I believe this to be the absolute hardest step to an apology and the reason why so many apologies don’t come off as sincere. Owning up to your mistakes is a tough self-realization pill to swallow and not a guarantee that your apology being accepted by someone else but an imperative component.

You need to acknowledge what you’ve done to reclaim personal power over this situation in your life. You made the choices, you were in control of your actions, now you can forgive yourself. If you’re able to, try to dig deep and figure out what caused the situation to undesirably unfold as it did. Often we are able to look back with clearer eyes than we had when we were in the moment and can identify the trigger or catalyst to what went wrong.

When you do this, be sure to touch on how to, if possible, rectify the problem. Is there something you overestimated about how you’d feel in this situation? Can you formulate a new way to circumvent this outcome in the future? Feelings of disappointment, anger, guilt, apprehension, and more are normal when you’re trying to come up with a plan to correct a mistake.

The focus should be on self-reflection and self-forgiveness first before you can convey the heartfeltness behind your apology to someone else. At a certain point, regardless, you will need to move on and stop punishing yourself for the mistake and this can happen faster when you accept responsibility and take action. You are here now, be present, but integrate lessons from past experiences.

Why apologize?

There’s a lot of reasons you may feel an apology is needed. If even one of these jumps out at you, then you know deep down you should apologize:

  • You know you were wrong in hindsight
  • You lost your temper and said things you wish you hadn’t
  • You broke a rule of social conduct
  • You were lashing out because you couldn’t better express yourself
  • You intentionally hurt someone’s feelings
  • You want to take responsibility first
  • You broke trust between you and someone else

That’s just some of the reasons you may feel prompted to apologize. There’s many more, some will be unique to just you and your situation. Deciding to apologize can be hard because it feels like you’re admitting out loud that you failed in some way, and that you are a failure. That isn’t true though. Apologizing doesn’t mean there’s anything inherently wrong with you. It also doesn’t mean that you are entirely responsible for the conflict. Apologizing is simply you taking a step toward a resolution between all parties involved.

Feelings are complicated and apologies are built upon correlating feelings to the right words. The benefits that come coupled with forgiveness can offer a way out for tension and anxiety, build a stronger bond, reduce the chance for future conflict, open new lines of communication, restore feelings of safety/trust, or bring awareness to triggers and unhealthy personal patterns. Apologizing will hopefully help someone else just as much, so pinpoint what this apology means to you.

Apologizing is healthy, mostly

There has been research on apologizing and how it affects us. We generally want to apologize when we regret certain actions or words we exhibited. It’s been theorized there are two types of regret: regret for inactions and regret for actions. That means you’re looking back and feeling regretful about something you did or didn’t do.

When you offer up an ‘I’m sorry,’ you’ll find you are clearing the way for any negative emotions to move through. Perhaps this occurrence has caused you stress, body pains, appetite fluctuations, mental fatigue, sleep disturbances, or more. That’s why clearing the air may be your solace.

Apologizing lets you release these negative feelings and manifestations from within. Forgiveness can be directly linked to lower blood pressure, lower cortisol, lower mortality rates, and lower heart disease. Some believe it could also support improving your immune system in the long-term. This process that can’t be done overnight so be patient as you navigate forgiving yourself, apologizing, and hopefully receiving forgiveness from someone else.

Of course, there will be situations where saying sorry could cause further damage but that usually comes when you apologize out of fear, are bullied into apologizing, apologize as a means to an end, or feel you aren’t truly sorry. I’m sure you know someone who over-apologizes. They say sorry for the slightest, most insignificant infractions. You don’t want to appear weak, insecure, or not worthy of respect. Maybe you are an over-apologizer. If so, ask yourself why you feel the need to utter those two words so often and take a closer look at your self esteem and confidence levels.

A simple ‘sorry’

There is no magic formula for an apology. It is a very personal and deeply subjective format that is going to pan out differently for everyone. I generally opt to keep my apologies simple and direct, so there’s no more room for miscommunication. You want the recipient of your apology to take what you’ve said to heart and that’s why it needs to come from that exact place.

Let’s say I’ve lost my cool at my partner when we were cooking dinner together and I said something hurtful:

  1. Start with the basics. Begin with “I’m sorry,” or “I apologize.” These words help convey the remorse you are attempting to express for your actions or words. What’s most important is the words be authentic and sincere. If you don’t mean it, they will be able to tell, and so will you. “Honey, I’m sorry for being short with you…”
  2. Briefly explain yourself. Optionally, very shortly offer an explanation for your actions. I’ve found explaining this helps the other party see the motives behind my position. This isn’t an excuse — use this as a way to show the vulnerability you feel at this time and in the past when this happened but you couldn’t express it. “Honey, I’m sorry for being short with you, I was frustrated that it was late and we didn’t have dinner ready.”
  3. Take ownership of your part. Remember when I mentioned earlier you have to accept responsibility for what you did or didn’t do? This is where you can acknowledge that and empathize with the other party. Think of this as the part of the apology where you show you understand how they may have felt. I feel this is where the biggest emotional connection is made in an apology. “Honey, I’m sorry for being short with you, I was frustrated that it was late and we didn’t have dinner ready. I know you were just trying to help and probably felt unappreciated. I should not have been short with you.”
  4. Attempt to make amends. Here is where you are going to attempt to make things right. I only say ‘attempt’ because that’s all you can do. Without expectations from the other party, you need to have a plan on how to fix things from your end. Many times, due to how much time has passed you can’t offer a 1-for-1 replicated redo of an event or occurrence. Avoid empty promises, guilty compromises, and complicated gestures and get real; the amends should be appropriate. “Honey, I’m sorry for being short with you, I was frustrated that it was late and we didn’t have dinner ready. I know you were just trying to help and probably felt unappreciated. I should not have been short with you. If there’s anything I can do to make it up to you, please let me know/if I can make you dinner one night this week I’d be happy to.”
  5. No repeats. As a final step I would suggest you let it be known that you will not repeat the action or behavior. For trust to be rebuilt, they need to understand that you want to repair things but also that you are willing to change. No one wants to forgive someone who they believe didn’t “learn” anything in the end. Once you express that genuinely, do your very best to honor your words in the future. I like to invite the other party to hold me accountable to this. Your reputation and relationship with them is on the line. “Honey, I’m sorry for being short with you, I was frustrated that it was late and we didn’t have dinner ready. I know you were just trying to help and probably felt unappreciated. I should not have been short with you. If there’s anything I can do to make it up to you, please let me know/if I can make you dinner one night this week I’d be happy to. I will manage my frustrations better so I don’t hurt your feelings again in this way. Please call me out if I do.”

If all of that sounds too complicated, a sincere “I’m sorry for _______,” will get the job done. It’s short, simple, and gets straight to the point. It also avoids your explanation coming off as an excuse — there will always be reasons why you did/didn’t/say/act, etc the way you did. These aren’t always needed in an apology if it’s going to bog it down and open the wound of the circumstances again.

Tip: Write down apologies first in a journal. By doing this you are providing a way for you to ensure the message you’re trying to verbalize is getting through clearly and succinctly. You can also look back in the future and see how you’ve grown.

Forgive but maybe don’t forget

As I stated before, this is an undertaking. You aren’t trying to undo all the hurt and pain that you and the other person felt. That’s impossible. You’re simply trying to share your remorsefulness openly. This is a key part of the healing that needs to take place for everyone affected. Give them space and time to hear you, process your words, reflect, and heal.

When someone who is wronged receives an apology from the offending party they can begin to develop empathy towards that person, which can foster forgiveness.

We all process things differently so maybe they will immediately forgive you, it might take some time, or they might not forgive you at all. Be patient and respect their way of getting through this, even if it doesn’t turn out like you hoped.

Apologizing is hard. It requires a level of humility that many of us do not exercise often. Blame shifting is easy, however, the self reflection needed to start the process of apologizing is tough. It requires a great deal of emotional maturity and openness. This is your strength, this is your power and something you can actively do.

All it takes is two simple words to get you started on the path of modesty, healing, self-respect, and love, are you willing to say them first?

Spoon Up – Energy Allotment

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Are you feeling particularly low on energy or stamina but can’t point to an exact reason? You may be low on spoons.

No, not the ones in your cabinet, the “spoons” you metaphorically hold. The Spoon Theory has been a frequently shared metaphor since Christine Miserandino introduced the concept in 2003 in her essay “The Spoon Theory”. Originally Miserandino spoke about “spoons” in terms of a disability or chronic illness metaphor, often one that is unseen and therefore overlooked by those who do not have said disability.

It’s now come to encompass willpower depletion, fatigue, depression, or other internal factors that are felt that can accept pacing or participation in activities ranging from simple conversation to an outing with friends or a partner.

One spoon, two spoon, blue spoon, no spoon

I didn’t know I had spoons until I didn’t have spoons. For the last decade as I’ve mentioned, I suffered from a mysterious “illness”. Many tests and appointments were had to solve the illness. Eventually, it was determined the illness was in fact stress and anxiety. This coupled with a lower back injury that flares up whenever it feels like, often throbbing throughout my entire right side, has caused me to take pause before agreeing to and when planning social and everyday activities. Physical and psychological conditions can be reason to start counting your spoons.

For the average person the meter on your energy state can go unnoticed. With clients I’ve noticed a shift in many of them feeling like they just can’t deal with the things they used to be able to easily handle. They may have previously experienced a few days where they don’t feel like cooking breakfast, but now they’re asking how they can take a shower and online grocery shop. They don’t have the energy for both and you might not either.

Do the dishes and monitor the children’s study time?

Take a bath and prep lunch for tomorrow?

Attend a video meeting and retrieve a package?

Getting out of bed and getting dressed?

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Spoon Theory Infographic from zebrasaus.com.au

You’re not being lazy, you’re running out of spoons. The COVID-19 pandemic may be intensifying or complicating your feelings and physical responses. You’re not alone. I suspect that all of us all along have only had a limited number of spoons, we just didn’t know how to universally verbalize it.

Consciously choosing spoons

Twelve spoons is the shared theory on how many spoons each person gets a day. However, you are a unique individual. You might not always have the same number of spoons each day. Sometimes you will have three, sometimes it will feel like none. Remember simple activities use spoons as well and depending on your personal perception, they won’t always equate the same.

A shower may take one spoon when the kids are already awake but on the weekend it may take three.

Making yourself dinner may be a two spoon activity but when you’ve used two spoons per business call that day it may feel like it takes five or more. You may even have an excess of spoons, but don’t count on them to be available the next day.

As to avoid the guilt that accompanies perceived unproductiveness or to help friends/family better understand my situation and not add to my stress I have a system. I start the day by visualizing how much energy I have in terms of “spoons”. Last week I had many, this week not so much. This can help you choose wisely how you want to focus your time and energy. This can allow you to be gentle on yourself when you feel you need more rest or to cancel plans.

My profession as a life coach and empowerment speaker means I use my spoons by simply doing my job, let alone meeting personal self care needs in addition to activities of daily living (ADL). Self-deluding myself into thinking that I didn’t have the luxury of running out of spoons (before I even knew what they were!) — thinking I had infinite energy, is what lead to physical responses that required medical attention. My various health issues were mostly chalked up to failing to account for my own spoon supply. Once your spoons are gone, they’re gone for the day.

Spoon me

Despite how much physical and mental energy you had previously to do the things you want, there may be shift with the current state of the world.

Attempt to strive for activities and people who replenish your spoons. This could look like a mix of self-care and alone time, or another outlet such as:

  • Meditation
  • Reading quietly*
  • Eating healthy foods
  • Working out (yoga, stretching, swimming, cardio, etc)
  • Massage
  • Hanging with your pet
  • Listening to music
  • Enjoying nature
  • Napping*
  • Taking a bath
  • Having a solo temper tantrum
  • Playing games
  • Hugs
  • Journaling
  • Cathartic purging by crying
  • Gardening
  • Laughing at YouTube videos
  • Night driving*
  • Engaging in any hobbies

Anything that makes you feel happy, at peace, relaxed, and recharged counts as something that personally helps you replenish your spoons. I’ve marked my favorite three (there’s a reason I call myself ‘The Nap Queen’). It’s important to remember we all have spoons and we all know when we’re running out. Don’t make someone feel guilty if they cancel last-minute or flake out on you by saying they don’t have energy to keep the commitment. It usually takes a lot of internal debating before the decision to conscious remove yourself from a planned activity — no need to add to their feelings of blame-ability. You might be in their position one day and would appreciate the calm compassion.

Sometimes I have friends who don’t text back for weeks, I know this is because they are low on spoons so I am mindful to not exacerbate whatever emotions they were experiencing when they do return my text, which they always do eventually. It’s made me more patient with people on a whole.

The best way I’ve found to get things done on the bad days (i.e. low spoon supply days) is to adjust accordingly but also practice some simple techniques:

  1. I have a very simple routine planned and keep my day simple
  2. I reach out for support and focus on positive affirmations
  3. I practice self-love and intentional forgiveness

You life looks different than mine, and both of ours different from someone else. What is an obstacle for me may be a simple speed bump for you. What takes no spoons for me may take several for you or just one for your friend. Apply the Spoon theory in whatever way works best for you but I dare you to try it out tomorrow and see how you’re investing your energy. Are you choosing wisely where you spend your time? Are you protecting your own sovereign strength and allowing time for recovery?

How many spoons have you already used today? And how many will you have tomorrow?

The Power of Love

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We often talk about love and relationships on a daily basis. We read about love in some of our favorite novels. Watch movies surrounding love and it’s concepts. I can’t even begin to list the number of songs dedicated to love. It’s safe to say that love is definitely a popular topic. 

There’s no denying that love is one of, if not the most talked about subject in the world. It’s undeniable how far reaching its impact is. Whenever it’s brought into the equation it can change or break the equation.

But what is the true power of love when it comes to standing on its own? Love can’t exist without those of us here to experience it, right? This is because we are simply humans that act as the vehicles to the experience of love itself.

Love is powerful

It is more powerful than most of us give it credit for. Love is the energy that binds us and we connect with it constantly. But the catch is being able to find that inner love and connection with self. The universe will show us this. Through going within we can truly begin to understand the capacity for love within us, it’s much more powerful than we can grasp sometimes. 

What makes love such a potent force? It’s simple:

  • Love can heal.
  • Love can also hurt.

The beauty of this destruction is being able to find the true meaning of what the power of love is within the pain and creation. 

When love appears in our lives and begins its true process of breaking down our barriers, it’s up to us to make the choice of where love guides us. Of course, we can always make the choice to not allow love in but over time new opportunities will present themselves until we let love in. Love has a way of tearing down our walls and breaking into our most vulnerable wounds.

The lessons of love

When love comes into our life to teach us something we might jump on the bandwagon quite fast. But the nuances of the love lessons (including friends or family) usually come to light much later. This is where we will begin to experience the ways love can hurt us and teach us.

  • Losing someone close to us through life’s circumstances
  • Relationships ending and strife
  • Heartbreak or rejection
  • Being abandoned by someone you love
  • Closing off or another closing up
  • Abusive or co-dependent relationships

Once it’s broken through, it can come in to heal us. There’s two sides of a coin when it comes to love.

If we find ourselves wanting to connect with people that we know are going to help us grow, we learn why we’re here on this beautiful Earth. We are here to connect with others so we can learn about the love present inside of us.

Connection presents us with the opportunity of growth through love’s lessons. This is a part of the process of uncovering the power of love’s honesty. If love has entered your life, you will know when it’s beginning to break down and be let in to heal you.

  • Learning self love and respect
  • Lessons on growing into your heart space
  • Compassion for others and yourself
  • Communication with self and others
  • Old wounds or trauma coming to surface for healing
  • Opening up to yourself and others honestly

When love teaches us about our wounds that need to be healed, we can allow love to come in and change us on the levels that weren’t being highlighted. In this stage, love is a force to be reckoned with. Love can topple us and rebuild us. If it provides us with a new foundation, we will eventually build ourselves back up with love at the core. Each leg will stand up as it should.

The power of love has changed some for the better and some for the worst. What could be more changing than that? 

Love itself is the great transformer.

MyWorkshop – Uncovering Your Soul Template

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Ready to access your soulrenity?

Join the MySoulrenity team for MyWorkshops!

Next FREE Workshop: JANUARY 15 @ 9:00 PM ET/ 7:00 PM CT/ 6:00 PM PT – Uncovering Your Soul Template

(Just click above link for *FREE* Zoom meeting link)

This 45 minute inner focused talk will to introduce you to soul-growing classes, workshops, interactive lectures and more through our webinars. Information, valuable rewards, exclusive discounts and more await you.

Many people feel great peace and hope after looking within to access personal growth work. We will strive to unlock your true desires and potential on a soul level.

Need help connecting with your true passion and purpose so you thrive in all areas of your life, work, relationships, health, and beyond?

Uncover YOUR soul template

In this workshop, we’ll be discussing…

  • Identify cyclical patterns
  • Learn tactics to overcome blocks and challenges
  • Activate a higher frequency to upgrade within
  • Manifest your highest purpose and desires
  • Express gratitude through positive vibrational alignment (aka ‘Pay it forward’) for living your best life
  • …and more!

Dawn and Natali of MySoulrenity.com are Conscious Coaches and Energy Healers who have a passion for helping others with personal hurdles, and guiding with upgrading their lifestyles to better match their true potential. Dawn and Natali are here assist with balancing all that you are. Let’s unlock your soulrenity!

All MyWorkshops will be presented through Zoom, the secure video communication for virtual learning sessions. It is our hope that our workshops provide exceptional clarity and quality for the thirsty soul.

Follow Up

MyWorkshops will be capped in attendance to allow for more presenter/attendee exchange time. After purchase (if not a free webinar), we will send you the official link to the workshop. We strongly suggest you run Zoom for updates prior to each ticketed session. Ticket sales end two hours prior to each event for paid events.

Each MyWorkshop will last 30-45 minutes closing with a Q+A between the presenters and attendees of each topic. All attendees will receive an overview and accompanying worksheets, exercises, or information reference material within 48 hours of attending each MyWorkshop.

Soulrenity Sunday – Free From FOMO

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This month listen we tackle “the fear’…the very real fear of missing out. But what are you really missing out on? It happens to us all at some point, but let us share how you can address the source and work through FOMO to reclaim your MOJO.

Listen to the full ‘Soulrenity Sunday’ podcast here!

​Join Natali and her co-host Dawn on a Soul Journey into the wild with Soulrenity Sunday. On the last Sunday of the month we will talk about our views, ideas, and beliefs surrounding spirituality and more. Our goal is always to stop, listen and get in touch with our authentic selves.

Are you ready to reconnect with your soul-renity?

MyWorkshop – Cleansing Toxicity

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Ready to access your soulrenity?

Join the MySoulrenity team for MyWorkshops!

Next FREE Workshop: DECEMBER 15 @ 9:00 PM ET/ 7:00 PM CT/ 6:00 PM PT – Cleansing Toxic Relationships

(Just click above link for *FREE* Zoom meeting link)

This 45 minute inner focused talk will to introduce you to soul-growing classes, workshops, interactive lectures and more through our webinars. Information, valuable rewards, exclusive discounts and more await you.

Many people feel great peace and hope after looking within to access personal growth work. We will strive to unlock your true desires and potential on a soul level.

Removing toxic people is like removing weeds on the path of your own journey. Beautiful things can’t grow when weeds are strangling potential growth.

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a cycle that repeats with a specific person who doesn’t have our highest good in mind.

Let us help awaken your inner self to help you fight the urge to blame yourself and learn more about cleansing yourself now and for the future.

In this workshop, we’ll be discussing…

  • Identify the signs of toxic relationships and dynamics
  • Tips and techniques to cleanse yourself of toxic relationships and situations
  • How to contain the fallout that toxic relations may be causing you and those around you
  • Rebuilding yourself after coming in contact with toxic relationships and behaviors
  • …and more

Dawn and Natali of MySoulrenity.com are Conscious Coaches and Energy Healers who have a passion for helping others with personal hurdles, and guiding with upgrading their lifestyles to better match their true potential. Dawn and Natali are here assist with balancing all that you are. Let’s unlock your soulrenity!

All MyWorkshops will be presented through Zoom, the secure video communication for virtual learning sessions. It is our hope that our workshops provide exceptional clarity and quality for the thirsty soul.

Follow Up

MyWorkshops will be capped in attendance to allow for more presenter/attendee exchange time. After purchase (if not a free webinar), we will send you the official link to the workshop. We strongly suggest you run Zoom for updates prior to each ticketed session. Ticket sales end two hours prior to each event for paid events.

Each MyWorkshop will last 30-45 minutes closing with a Q+A between the presenters and attendees of each topic. All attendees will receive an overview and accompanying worksheets, exercises, or information reference material within 48 hours of attending each MyWorkshop.

Become Friends With Your Body

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Teaching ourselves to appreciate our own bodies can be difficult. Living in a world that doesn’t exactly encourage a healthy relationship with our bodies can create many problems with self image. This inflicts everyone on some level. Yet, on the other hand, we have a huge resurgence of “body positivity” in Western Society. This can also lead to gross acceptance that can create even more damage or cycles that undermine our personal growth.

Wanna rest your eyes? Listen to this via the MySoulrenity + Beyond podcast!

Where is the middle point?

Learning to balance our personal needs with the needs of our body is something I want to touch upon. The ability to become “friends” with the spirit of our body. Discovering the essence of our physical state and its personal needs as it cries out for attention feels hard but is often quite simple.

Putting a metaphorical ear to each want and each sensation can come from a place that we all know: Friendship. By learning to be good friends with ourselves, we start small and work our way through the pieces.

Become friends with our physical state

This is just as important as any other state of balancing we’re striving for in terms of growth. To understand what we’ve done to our bodies over the years and what we’ve neglected to do for our body in the present- and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to know what you body is capable of either. We all have our own bodily needs and wants.

Re-connect and listen to what your body is telling you. Close your eyes and just pay attention.

Learning to communicate with our own physical form can teach us about the power we have and the weaknesses we have. It can increase expansion and allows for the freedom to move, be, and experience wellness daily– no matter what kind of state our body is in.

Start communicating with your body

How does one even start seeing their body as a part of themselves instead of something that gets in the way of their lives? How does one start to view their body as a friend instead of a foe? What kind of language does your body use to communicate with you? How can you learn to listen to it’s voice?

One of the first things to realize is that our body isn’t our foe. It’s not our enemy nor does it need to be neglected or controlled all the time. Crazy huh?

No self hate

By being at odds with ourselves and either hating or downing our body, we’re effectively undermining our personal growth in most areas. Confidence, self-esteem, depression, anger, sadness, guilt, and shame–these are just some of the feelings we embody when we do this. This can even lead to various cycles that keep us from experience the fullness of what our body can do for us–believe it or not our body wants us to thrive!

One of the first things to realize is that our body isn’t our foe. It’s not our enemy nor does it need to be neglected or controlled all the time.

But what happens when you talk down to a friend? What happens when you stop nurturing the friendship and you start picking it apart? What happens if you throw your friend aside and stop listening to the basic fundamental needs they have to stay connected to you?

Anger, silence and damage to the friendship is inevitable at that point.

Our body is here to help us navigate and experience life. The body might seem like a vessel to some, but the body is just as much of our experiences as the rest of our existence. Aligning our thoughts with what we feel about our body can encourage change and healthy attitudes and heal our image of the body. Which leads to better choices for our body through a realistic lens–not an overly positive one that can force you to fall back into a habit that destroys you.

Be real

Accept this friend that wants to converse with you and take in all it has to say. You might feel a lot of things too.

To become friends with the embodiment of our physical form creates awareness of neglect or loss of control. It can create a ripple effect into your daily life where you learn to respect yourself and the bodies of others too. It creates potential and the ability to see that potential in yourself, no matter what ails your body.

Learning to talk to the body is hard but with patience (I know, it can be very hard to cultivate patience) it can be learned. Stopping to take the time to listen to what our body says, even during small encounters, will reveal to us a lot more about our emotional and mental state. The senses are always willing to share information with us if we listen to it’s language. Start with the simple.

Think for a moment…

  • When you’re hurting, the body tells you it’s in pain.
  • When you’re hungry, the body tells you it needs food.
  • If something is cold, you put something warm on because your body told you it needed warmth.
  • When you’re tired, you feel it in your body.
  • If you’re sick, the body informs you. (Sometimes even ahead of time!)

These are just a few simple ways of the body communicating with us. With simple signals like this, it’s all too easy to ignore it’s voice with the distractions we have in our daily lives. It’s the more complex problems that we have become desensitized to because of distractions. The subtle nuances of communication and trust between our body and our mind have been damaged for centuries through disconnection with ourselves and our environment. The little pieces of our body that could easily be in tune with every part of us if we just listened more closely to our dearest friend.

The body has needs

Just like the mind, emotions, and our essence. Learning to pay attention and communicate organically through awareness will free us from the unhealthy relationship we might have with our body and put us on the path to balancing ourselves for expansion.

Once I stopped ignoring the big things my body was telling me, the closer I got to noticing the nuanced conversations of the subtle whispers.

One day I decided to make a conscious effort to make my body my best friend. Does that mean I always listen? No, but it definitely means that I’m paying attention. That’s where balancing and healing can come in. A door opens up to possibility and a new internal focus on relationship with ourselves. It’s a small step, but a very impacting one.

Follow along in my next article where I’ll explore the essence of our body and how it pertains to our environment and the subtle messages we can pick up on when we listen patiently to our physical being.

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